Boise Attorney, Pat Kershisnik, has been practicing law in the Boise Area for over 20 years. In his blog he discusses many Idaho legal issues including divorce, custody, DUI, criminal law, bankruptcy, employment law, estate planning, probate, personal injury, workers comp and small business law.
As a Boise Divorce Attorney one of the most common issues I run into is helping my clients understand what my role as their divorce attorney. Divorce is a very emotionally charged process. Even in an uncontested divorce, people are emotionally disrupted. Let's face it, when you break up with your best friend or your passionate lover, you can and, most likely will be, devastated.
How Divorce Effects Your Emotions
Divorce can have a huge impact on you as a person. It impacts your thoughts, feelings and your entire emotional well being. It can manifest itself in any number of ways. You may become depressed or angry. You may withdraw, retaliate or simply give up or in.
If you think about how divorce can impact an adult, think of the effect it can have on children. Although kids are resilient, divorce can have a lasting negative impact on kids. Their future is literally in your hands. How children end up emotionally is hugely effected by how you parent during and after a divorce.
The Role of the Divorce Attorney
Getting back to my original point is discussing my role as your divorce attorney. It is my job to manage your divorce. I counsel you regarding what is and what will happen in your case, I file the appropriate paperwork, I meet, negotiate and confer with the other attorney and I present your case to the judge. I also help you to best understand what is happening. This all makes sense and is in the scope of my role as your Boise Divorce Attorney. However, often times people want me to be more than their attorney. They look to me to fix their underlying problems, they want me to make the other party behave or worse, they want me to impoverish the other side or destroy any possibility of contact with the other side and their children. Obviously, if their are health or safety, welfare or financial issues, we would take the appropriate steps to preserve the welfare of the children and of the property, but generally these demands come from the emotional rollercoaster the parties are on. These are issues associated with feelings of loss of control and lashing out. I will tell you now, and I always tell my clients, that these psychological issues need to resolved or at least dealt with with a mental health professional. It really is a misuse of your money to pay your divorce lawyer to listen to your need to retaliate against the other side or to micromanage them. I regularly get calls from people wanting to tell me how the other side changed the password on their Facebook account or told their friend that they were something other than they are. Everyone needs someone to talk to especially when they are going through a divorce, but my best advice to you is make sure your intentions are good and you are making use of the proper professionals at the proper time.
If you need the help of a Boise Divorce Attorney, give us a call and see what we can do for you, 208-472-2383.